我的寶貝(bei)小甜心：

　　Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was "How to keep him interested."

　　最近我(wo)和你 媽(ma)(ma)媽(ma)(ma)準備(bei)在谷歌(ge)上搜一個(ge)答案。還沒輸完(wan)整個(ge)問題，谷歌(ge)就顯示了一列世界上最常見的搜索。其中排在第一的是(shi)“怎(zen)么能讓他一直對我(wo)感興趣(qu)”。

　　It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.

　　這(zhe)讓(rang)我有(you)點震驚。我瀏覽了無數(shu)相關的論文(wen)，這(zhe)些文(wen)章(zhang)都是關于(yu)女孩如何性感(gan)(gan)保(bao)持(chi)美(mei)麗，什么時候給他送上一杯啤(pi)酒和(he)三明(ming)治(zhi)，以及如何讓(rang)他覺得(de)聰明(ming)和(he)有(you)優越感(gan)(gan)。

　　And I got angry.

　　我怒了。

　　Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to "keep him interested."

　　親愛的寶(bao)貝，你從來，完全都不需要，“讓他一直對(dui)你感興趣(qu)。”

　　Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul -- in that unshakeable place that isn't rattled by rejection and loss and ego -- that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)

　　親愛的(de)，你(ni)的(de)任務就(jiu)是不斷去了(le)(le)解(jie)自己的(de)靈魂——你(ni)不該讓拒絕、失去和自我(wo)占據那個(ge)不可撼動的(de)領域——這樣(yang)你(ni)才值(zhi)得被(bei)喜(xi)歡(huan)。(如果你(ni)還(huan)能知道每個(ge)人都(dou)值(zhi)得被(bei)喜(xi)歡(huan)，那么你(ni)的(de)人生已經(jing)基本(ben)贏(ying)了(le)(le)。改天我(wo)會在另(ling)一封信里再寫這部分。)

　　If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.

　　如果(guo)你(ni)(ni)相信自(zi)己的(de)價值，那么(me)你(ni)(ni)的(de)魅力(li)就(jiu)能(neng)用最重要(yao)的(de)這句話來形容：你(ni)(ni)會吸引(yin)有能(neng)力(li)去愛你(ni)(ni)同時(shi)也(ye)想花一輩子時(shi)間好好愛你(ni)(ni)的(de)男生。

　　Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn't need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting.

　　親愛(ai)的，我想告訴(su)你，不(bu)用刻意(yi)在(zai)(zai)男生(sheng)面(mian)前保(bao)持新鮮(xian)感，他會知道(dao)你的好和魅力所在(zai)(zai)。

　　I don't care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table -- as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can't stop looking.

　　我不(bu)介意(yi)他吃(chi)飯時會不(bu)會把手放桌(zhuo)子上——只要他會把注意(yi)力放在(zai)你(ni)身上，哪(na)怕你(ni)大笑時鼻(bi)子都發出了怪聲，還是止不(bu)住的一直看著你(ni)。

　　I don’t care if he can't play a bit of golf with me -- as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.

　　我不(bu)介意他(ta)(ta)不(bu)會陪我打高爾夫——只要他(ta)(ta)能和孩子們(men)玩(wan)得開心，并(bing)且(qie)陶醉于(yu)孩子們(men)和你是多么地(di)相像。

　　I don't care if he doesn't follow his wallet -- as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.

　　我不(bu)(bu)介意他(ta)忘帶(dai)錢包(bao)——只要他(ta)全心愛你如初(chu)，一直不(bu)(bu)離不(bu)(bu)棄(qi)。

　　I don't care if he is strong -- as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.

　　我(wo)不(bu)介意他是不(bu)是強壯——只要他能夠給你足夠空間，讓你去不(bu)斷鍛(duan)煉(lian)內心的力量。

　　I couldn't care less how he votes -- as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.

　　我一點也(ye)不關心(xin)他(ta)為(wei)誰投票——只要他(ta)每天早上醒來，都能把(ba)你“選”為(wei)家里的榮(rong)耀和他(ta)心(xin)中的女神。

　　I don't care about the color of his skin -- as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.

　　You.

　　那就是你。

　　Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to "keep him interested" is to be you.

　　最后，親愛(ai)的，想要讓他一直愛(ai)你(ni)(ni)如初的話(hua)，你(ni)(ni)需要做的就是做你(ni)(ni)自己(ji)。

　　Your eternally interested guy,

　　永遠愛你的

　　Daddy

　　爸爸